I have witnessed and helped out with hundreds of blood draws of children, but it’s a little bit different when you’re sitting in the chair, holding your own 3-month-old baby on your lap. I knew that the EMLA cream truly worked, so I didn’t feel too nervous, but that changed when TEDDY staff member B told me, “Wow, little C has really tiny veins and they are so hard to find!” Yeah, that just increased my heart rate about 50 beats per minute! C must have sensed my anxiety, or maybe he was just tired of the tight tourniquet tied around his arm, because he started to fuss and cry a little. Fortunately they don’t need much blood at the 3 month visit, so it was over fast and I was able to calm him back down. I was confident the next time would be easier.
Well, his 6 month visit came around and by this time my little baby had tons of cute chub covering his body. Of course, this didn’t make it any easier to find his impossible veins under all that fat! Two different staff members had to try to get blood from his arm but my little boy was so brave and just watched as the helpers blew bubbles to distract him. I was feeling a lot better about this whole blood draw thing. The 9 month visit also went really well, although his veins were still hard to find.
At C’s 12 month visit things were quite a bit different. He was developing so quickly and he was experimenting with independence. He hated anyone trying to hold him still, as I knew well from difficult diaper changes at home. When we got to the part of the TEDDY visit where he had to take off his clothes to get weighed, he was pretty upset and things kind of went downhill from there. If he had nice big, straight veins, we might have survived, but because it was so hard to find a vein, he just got more and more upset with having his arm held out and the visit ended with him melting down, without getting any blood. I tried everything I could to calm him during the process but nothing was working. I left the visit upset and confused. It was so important to me and my husband to have C in the study and monitored for the pre-diabetes antibodies, but at what cost? I didn’t think it was fair to C to put him through such a horrible experience. I talked to a few different TEDDY staff members about our experience and decided that his 15 month visit would be a no-ouch visit. That would give C a chance to come to the TEDDY clinic and see that it didn’t have to be a painful experience.
The 15 month no-ouch visit turned out to be a really great decision. C was happy to just get to play during the visit without anyone having to hold him still or poke around. He even did the nasal swab since things were going so well. I was feeling good about TEDDY visits again.
Unfortunately, I think I was a bit overconfident about the 18 month visit. The 15 month was so great that I thought C would be the same way at 18 months. But C was now at the age where he was very wary of all adults other than Mom and Dad, including his regular babysitter. So it didn’t go over very well when we came into the TEDDY clinic and the first thing that happened was some strange woman comes over to him and starts putting cold lotion on the inside of his elbows. He spent the entire visit with his head buried in my chest, getting increasingly upset when anyone tried to look at him. K, the TEDDY staff member, was trying so hard to make him comfortable enough to smile or laugh but nothing was working. It was also getting close to lunchtime, a double whammy for him. But it had been 9 months since he had his blood tested so I thought it was important to at least try the blood draw. I felt sure that the Cars video would be a good distraction for him, and K had also noticed that his veins seemed much easier to find. Sadly, it did not go well. K was able to get blood, and I was able to distract him with his favorite game on my phone, but having all those people around him trying to hold him still was just too much for him and he was crying and screaming. As soon as everyone left the room he was fine, so I knew he wasn’t hurt, but I had some serious thinking to do. I wanted him to be in TEDDY because I liked getting the antibody test results, and I feel it’s important to participate in research, but I had to consider the impact on my son. I know it’s good for him to sometimes have to do things he doesn’t necessarily want to do like going to the doctor’s office to get shots, or brushing his teeth, but at least with those experiences it’s over in a few seconds and he calms down quickly. The 18 month visit seemed like it was a bad experience for close to an hour. Was I really going to keep doing that to him every 3 months?
To be continued in part 2….
Well, his 6 month visit came around and by this time my little baby had tons of cute chub covering his body. Of course, this didn’t make it any easier to find his impossible veins under all that fat! Two different staff members had to try to get blood from his arm but my little boy was so brave and just watched as the helpers blew bubbles to distract him. I was feeling a lot better about this whole blood draw thing. The 9 month visit also went really well, although his veins were still hard to find.
At C’s 12 month visit things were quite a bit different. He was developing so quickly and he was experimenting with independence. He hated anyone trying to hold him still, as I knew well from difficult diaper changes at home. When we got to the part of the TEDDY visit where he had to take off his clothes to get weighed, he was pretty upset and things kind of went downhill from there. If he had nice big, straight veins, we might have survived, but because it was so hard to find a vein, he just got more and more upset with having his arm held out and the visit ended with him melting down, without getting any blood. I tried everything I could to calm him during the process but nothing was working. I left the visit upset and confused. It was so important to me and my husband to have C in the study and monitored for the pre-diabetes antibodies, but at what cost? I didn’t think it was fair to C to put him through such a horrible experience. I talked to a few different TEDDY staff members about our experience and decided that his 15 month visit would be a no-ouch visit. That would give C a chance to come to the TEDDY clinic and see that it didn’t have to be a painful experience.
The 15 month no-ouch visit turned out to be a really great decision. C was happy to just get to play during the visit without anyone having to hold him still or poke around. He even did the nasal swab since things were going so well. I was feeling good about TEDDY visits again.
Unfortunately, I think I was a bit overconfident about the 18 month visit. The 15 month was so great that I thought C would be the same way at 18 months. But C was now at the age where he was very wary of all adults other than Mom and Dad, including his regular babysitter. So it didn’t go over very well when we came into the TEDDY clinic and the first thing that happened was some strange woman comes over to him and starts putting cold lotion on the inside of his elbows. He spent the entire visit with his head buried in my chest, getting increasingly upset when anyone tried to look at him. K, the TEDDY staff member, was trying so hard to make him comfortable enough to smile or laugh but nothing was working. It was also getting close to lunchtime, a double whammy for him. But it had been 9 months since he had his blood tested so I thought it was important to at least try the blood draw. I felt sure that the Cars video would be a good distraction for him, and K had also noticed that his veins seemed much easier to find. Sadly, it did not go well. K was able to get blood, and I was able to distract him with his favorite game on my phone, but having all those people around him trying to hold him still was just too much for him and he was crying and screaming. As soon as everyone left the room he was fine, so I knew he wasn’t hurt, but I had some serious thinking to do. I wanted him to be in TEDDY because I liked getting the antibody test results, and I feel it’s important to participate in research, but I had to consider the impact on my son. I know it’s good for him to sometimes have to do things he doesn’t necessarily want to do like going to the doctor’s office to get shots, or brushing his teeth, but at least with those experiences it’s over in a few seconds and he calms down quickly. The 18 month visit seemed like it was a bad experience for close to an hour. Was I really going to keep doing that to him every 3 months?
To be continued in part 2….
